School has been in session for two months and I have already been called in twice for parent/teacher conferences. I am the proud owner of a nine year old that does not stop talking, ever.
As expected, the most recent trip to the elementary school involved his teacher dancing around the letters, ADHD. When I told her he had been tested twice, once with a hearty, “He has severe ADHD” and the other expert said, “He most definately does not have ADHD!” she seemed relieved. It was easier to have me know he may have ADHD from another source than herself.
I like Max’s teacher. She’s a funny, smart, well cultured lady who obviously enjoys teaching and my son loves her class. But why oh why do I have to feel the need to not only tell every teacher every year, but the same teachers over and over that I would rather not use prescription drugs to “help” my child? In addition, it irks me to my core that each teacher/principal/student counselor team I have ever met with always says the same thing, “Max cannot help his behavior. He has no choice.” He seems to have a choice at home, when he knows punishment is lurking behind every outburst. I tell them to be harder on him but my words are ignored each time.
Well, I must be a pushover too, cause after the most recent conference,Mr. Pilver made new rules. No TV. No video games. No computer. No dessert (that one was me).
It’s working. We have requested that Max be sent home with daily reports, so that we know his behavior on a regular basis without being called on the phone when things have gone too far. They have all been positive. I am sure he’ll have tougher days, but so far he is paralleling that good behavior he’s shown at home. He has gone from a D average in spelling, the class the teacher said he paid zero attention in because there wasn’t enough creativity in it for him, to five weeks of 100% tests. And I don’t buy that creativity thing. He has begun to sing the letters in a tune in order to remember.
I am sure tweaks will have to be made, but this whole no electronics/no sweets thing is brilliant! We haven’t followed it true for every occasion, it was just Halloween. But for the first time, Max still has most of his candy after a week. He barely even pays attention to it.
I’m curious about what other parents looking for an alternative to ADHD prescription drugs do to help out their kids. So curious that I may just read a real book (with pages!) on the subject.