I don’t like the woman’s thoughts. She has outrageous opinions. She yells them on TV. She might smell, but I made that part up.
You may have heard the lady has a new book sure to be a best seller, Guilty: Liberal “Victims” and Their Assault on America. Right wing talk radio lovers will eat it up, and progressive granola crunchers will tear it to shreds. The whole idea of writing a shock book doesn’t usually rile me. Usually.
However, there is one part of her book which I heard about on a radio show this morning that actually made me angry. Some little snide and snooty comment that hit a bit too close to home.
“Countless studies on the subject make clear, look at almost any societal problem and you’ll find it is really a problem of single mothers.”
Another priceless published remark:
“Single motherhood is like a farm team for future criminals and social outcasts.”
This is fun…let’s do one more!
“the children of divorce,” or as I call them, “future strippers.” It is a mark of how attractive it is to be a phony victim that divorcées will often claim to belong to the more disreputable category of “single mothers.”
Let’s not sit and debate her comments, it would be pointless. She aimed at shocking the masses, and congrats non-mother, you did! Regardless of the percentages of criminals that come from single or double parent households, the whole world knows that fine citizens CAN come from either…and awful humans can also be a spawn of either type of child rearing.
Instead, since this is MY blog, I will tell you my own personal problem with her words:
I married at 20, had a baby at 22 and then left the guy at 23. So, I was 23, looked like I was 18 and suddenly I was a single mother. I will be frank: I was humiliated. I grew up in schools and had family that treated single mothers as less than real mothers. Immediately I received pity for a situation that sucked, but that I had chosen through and through. I was not heartbroken and carried no longing for my ex-husband but never removed the wedding band from my ring finger because I hated the looks I felt I was getting in grocery stores when my two year old would act like a two year old. It took a harsh conversation from a friend to convince me that though I knew I was a legitimate mother, the whole world could as well.
It did not stop the comments, however. I had one person who I think very highly of, make a remark about how sorry he felt for me as a single mother. Sure, it’s tough. Motherhood is tough. My older sister with a kind loving husband who brings home the bacon so she can stay at home with her kids calls me often at the end of the day to remark at how tough a day she had because the kids drove her batty. No one feels the need to tell her they feel sorry for her.
Throughout the first couple years I was single, I received both financial and emotional support from family and friends that helped me move on. However, had I still been married and had those same problems, I can bet I would have had the same help.
Now, I still have a tough time going to school functions and such because I do look a bit younger and I get those fears that the other, older parents will be looking my way and think…”Babies having babies.” And I bet some do, but for the most part I am treated like everyone else. And all my apprehensions in this area come from ME and only ME.
Everyone I have met since having Max assumes that I either A) had a shot gun wedding or B) had a child out of marriage. And literally every person who I have the marraige/kids/divorce conversation with asks how old I was when I married then how old I was when I had max. Their voices become silent as they count two years in between those days and they realize I married before I got pregnant after which the conversation continues.
My sister does not get asked these questions. My mother did not get asked. I did not get asked, while I was married. I completely agree and understand that it could be easier with two parents at home…could. Ann is not alone in her stupidity, plenty of people feel that way. But I choose to call her out because she is the one who decides to make her false claims, call them fact and take up too much time on the television. Ann Coulter breeds idiotic thinking.
We are not in a society that couples stay married throughout everything any longer. I believe that marriage should be looked at as a forever deal, and I did approach mine that way as well. And it failed. And thankfully, I was able to go the the courthouse, give them my money and have them grant me a do-over, or a do-again-never. I get my choice. As for single mothers who had children while unmarried, they get that same freedom to choose if they wish to be married to the father. America’s fun like that. I might stay here.
Someday, Ms. Coulter, I may be married. Someday I may even be divorced again. And someday I may decide to like girls and go to the sperm bank and become pregnant with 8 babies while living with my lesbian lover. But I will always be a mother with no prefix. Not a single-married-divorced-tansgender mother. Just a mother. And in any of these situations, my son will have the same love and care. Because I will never see my role in his life any differently, no matter who sleeps in my bed.
The Pilver 
Ann Coulter is a horror show of epic proportions, and if there is any sort of God or karmic justice in this universe, something horrible is going to happen to her very soon. This is, of course, assuming she isn’t secretly miserable in her closeted, hate-filled life, which is distinctly possible.
If it makes you feel any better, this woman is so crazy I’m fairly certain even the most die-hard conservatives don’t take her very seriously.
well said and good on you for realizing how life really is. Life is good!
She is insane and a tranny and you are right and she is so wrong.
Eeesshhh. I saw this raving lunatic on The Today show shouting down Matt Lauer of all people. She’s an attention-getting radical fool. Even Republicans, the smart ones, turn and walk away when her train wreck of a mouth starts opening.
I put Ann Coulter right up there with Marilyn Manson, Rush Limbaugh, and Howard Stern (and the list goes on). A shock-jock’s a shock-jock no matter how you dress it up. Ridiculous people saying ridiculous things to piss people off and to make money. They’re about as a cool as a Reality Show about Reality shows. Their words are as empty as their brains, but their wallets are full… wait, Shock-Jocks rule. (j/k)
Amen. People claimed that Atheists should stop arguing when she had her jaw wired shut.
Tonight’s Daily Show “Moment of Zen”: Ann getting pwned by none other than Bill O’Reilly.
“Ann Coulter breeds idiotic thinking.” Amen to that!
Here’s to you and Max proving the b*%$@ wrong!!!
Pilver~ A few things: When you say “family” I hope you know I love single moms, and always have. Secondly, I love trannies a lot, but Ann Coulter gives them a bad name. He/She (Shim) barely even looks like a woman, and most of the wonderful trannies I know think that Ms. Coulter misrepresents them.
Notice how Ms. Coulter is not married herself (himself)?
Anyways, Pilver, I think a lot of how you are interpreting people’s questions about you, your marriage, and your son are misinterpretations based on a fear you have about how they might think. Most people are not like Man Coulter. Most people think she’s (he’s) nuts. Some people even think she (he) smells.
Sarah- yes, obviously I was not speaking of you….and to address the last paragraph, I did say most of my apprehensions come only from me….most, certainly not all.
And yes, Sarah, I did not mean to disparage the wonderful trannies of this world. Ann Coulter is a tranny in the tradition of Buffalo Bill. I found myself at a drag show once and felt up one of the dancers. His boobies were AMAZING.
I like how this turned out to be about trannys. “It puts the lotion on it’s skin”
Um… I love you… But if you ever go lesbian and go to a sperm bank and have eight kids… We WILL be having a long talk about your choices. 🙂
One good thing about Man Coulter is that she/he brings all of us together in unity. Amy, I totally didn’t mistake what you meant. I was just pointing out how Ann should take off the drag costume, because she’s (he’s) such a bad tranny. High five for the boobie feel! May I ask what city that took place in?
As long as this discussion has turned to trannies, boobies, and lesbian sex, I think at this point that I should say, in the interest of full disclosure, that even though I find every single one of Ann Coulter’s ideas repellent, and even though my soul cries a single tear every time I hear the title of her latest ridiculous book, and even though I think her very existence is a blight on society…
…I’d still hit that.
I’d lie about it, of course, and she absolutely, positively would not be allowed to talk, before, during, or after the act. But, yeah…I’d break a couple Commandments with her.
[Moment of silence as everyone stares at tg, horrified. tg shrugs and walks away.]
tg I would expect nothing less from you, but Ann is like a guy that I’ve seen in this area. He is in his early sixties, grew out his hair even though he is balding on top, put on some makeup, and asked everyone to call him Patty. God bless him.
Sarah, I was in beautiful downtown Beloit at the stateline area’s fabulous gay bar, Club Impulse. It’s not that fabulous, but I always end up there when my precious cousin visits. He likes boys.
Why I Love Blogging by Kristiane Bell
It’s a chance for all my friends from all over the country to get together and talk trannies.
Seriously, Sarah and Amy…next time I am in WI, we are all gonna hang.
Amy~
Beloit as in Wisconsin? Just wondering…
Do you all ever get lost in video watching on Youtube? I did yesterday, and watched vid after vid of Mann Coulter bouncing her (his) Adam’s apple all over, while spewing garbage. Even Katie Couric was able to effectively call Ms. Coulter out. ahhh….. She (he) kind of reminds me of those preachers that yell to everyone on the street about how they will burn in hell for sure. And then, I think, “but wait! Those people frown upon trannies, so Ms. Coulter is probably not a street preacher.”
Pilver~ You should do a new blog entry. It’s fun to see where they go.
Wow…I really don’t know what I enjoy more…this post or the comments section
This lady kind of reminds me of Ann Coulter:
http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=iCh2FXzD6R4
Pilver~ you should do another blog entry. I am checking daily for more!!!
Ann Coulter shows her true colors when she opens her mouth: Baby puke orange.
You should be proud to be such a strong and brave woman. Max is a testament to that.
Ann Coulter is one of very few people (on either side of the political spectrum) that I honestly believe crosses over from free speech to hate speech.
I don’t believe the woman has ever had anything constructive to say; she tares down, but she never offers a way to build up.
You, on the other hand, have plenty to say that lifts up the human condition in all it’s foibles and flaws. I would much rather read what you have to say than what Ms Coulter has to say, any moment of any day of the week.
You made my day, DC 🙂
As long as you believe your a good mother, and your son loves you, that’s all that matters. Don’t let a miserable bitch like Ann Coulter keep you down!
no she doesn’t