Max came home yesterday and we went through our daily conversation:
Me: How was school?
Me: Who did you sit with at lunch
Max: I don’t remember…wait…I think it was Salvador
Me: What was your favorite part of the day?
Max:Music. We learned a new song, “The farmer in the dell…….the farmer takes a spouse the farm…”
Me: What?! Wait. The farmer takes a spouse?
Max: Yes, the farmer can be a man or a woman.
Thanks for learning me that, son. Here’s why I have a problem with that. Back in cave man times when the song was written, it was written about a man farmer who “took” a wife. Taking a wife is and should be considered sexist. But that is not the part that was removed from the song. The part that was removed was that the farmer was a man who had a wife. The change was made to prove that men and women can both be farmers. Duh. Ask any male farmer what his wife does and he will probably tell you she does a hell of a lot of work on the farm. She, too, is a farmer.
The altercation was not made to prove that men can have male spouses and women female spouses. The farmer still takes a spouse as though the taken is not involved in the choice. Take that part out. Change it to the farmer requests marriage from his girlfriend. But don’t try to take an old song and tell me The Farmer in the Dell could be a woman. Cause he’s not. He never was. And it makes singing songs with your kid difficult when you change all the words. Or better yet, choose a new song.